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Feelings come and go. If we are not afraid to let them have their moment, we will not be afraid to express them.
Have shared this many times before; it was such a freeing statement for me. "Just because you have a feeling you don't have to act on it."
It seemed like I was acting out on them for most of my life. Either I kept them inside or I blurted them out often at the wrong moment or in a way that was good for me or the people around me.
So many feelings were stuffed and became a jumble and I didn't know what was going to come out. I often labeled it fear and anger. Later to learn that there was sadness, hurt, rejection, abandonment, resentments, etc. I had to learn how to deal with these feelings by letting them out in a healthy way.
The best way for me was sharing with a sponsor or friend. I also did a lot of journaling.
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Learning to identify a feeling and labelling it can still be an issue for me in today. I just pray and ask for help, I don't have to know what it is, I just have to let it go if it is hurting me. I have to acknowledge it before I can let it go.
As I have shared many times, I shut down my feeling since a child when I saw my brother killed when I was 3. I have had a lifetime of stuffing, and I have to be ever watchful that I don't do it in today. I am so grateful for this program.
Thank you for being a part of my recovery. This site has been my home group for years. As my sponsor said, "You can learn two things. How to work your program and how NOT to work your program." Length of time in the program means nothing if you don't live and use it in today.
