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Sponsors and Sponsees Help Forum This forum is to discuss any topics, questions or comments you have on sponsorship from How To Pick A Sponsor to When To Step Back and more. |
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11-06-2013, 12:43 PM | #1 |
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Why must I have a sponsor? Can't I do this on my own?
This is a "we" program. --Saying Heard At Meetings
Newcomer Why must I have a sponsor? Can't I do this on my own? Sponsor Sponsorship is a strong suggestion--not a rule. Yes, some people do stay in recovery without a sponsor. And no, we can't recovery on our own. There are great advantages to taking the program suggestion to maintain a relationship with a sponsor. Recovery is a major change--it's one of the most difficult, most courageous things we can do in our lives. A sponsor, someone who's survived the ups and downs we're facing in early recovery, can serve as a guide and mentor. He or she can answer our questions and help us through the Steps, giving us the benefit of his or her experience. With a sponsor present to witness our recovery process, to offer perspective and support, we may have a gentler ride. When I was active in my addiction, I avoided the intimacy of relationships in which I might have to open myself to others or trust them. Even at times when there were many people in my life, I managed to avoid "people situations" that made me uncomfortable. A sponsor-sponsee relationship can be the start of learning that human beings can depend on one another. Today, I'm not alone in recovery. --If You Want What We Have
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12-30-2013, 05:25 PM | #2 | |
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then that 1-1 relationship helped me to learn to build and trust the God of my understanding so I could learn the importance of surrender, willingness acceptance and all those other vitally essential principles by watching that person take what was heard in the meetings out in life * put them into practice by utilizing them in every day life... "SEEING IS BELIEVING"... The sponsor taught me about that really bad neighbor hood between my ears and how those old friends [Denial, Justification, Stinking thinkin, Rationalization, etc...] up there could sabotage my recovery if I continued to hang out with them or listen to them and the fact that change was within me and that change was everything and that was something I could certainly not do on my own. The sponsor encouraged me to be a part of not a part from. and praying for the guidance to do the next right thing in ALL my affairs The list could go on and on but one of the many important lessons was that BEing the example was more important than my words, my beliefs or my opinions. Last edited by MajestyJo; 03-19-2014 at 08:14 PM. |
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01-28-2014, 12:04 AM | #3 | |
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Not sure if this is a repeat or not. This is why I appreciate this site. I can come here and share. It helps me and hopefully, it will help someone else.
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01-28-2014, 12:05 AM | #4 |
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Your sponsor helped you up. Don't let them down.
- Walk Softly and Carry a Big Book A sponsor was a big part of my recovery. I don't think I would have stayed clean and sober without them. I had an AA sponsor and co-sponsor. a NA sponsor, an Al-Anon sponsor and a Service sponsor. I was one of the really sick ones and needed a lot of people. They loved me back to good health. They loved me when I couldn't love myself.
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Love always, Jo I share because I care. Last edited by MajestyJo; 03-19-2014 at 08:20 PM. |
03-19-2014, 08:13 PM | #5 |
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I think a lot of us laugh because if we didn't we would cry and for some reason, that never seemed to be an option. Old tapes keep us sick. Tears are healing. They are even more so when they are tears of Joy!
Things like that need to be shared. Because those tears can be attached to good and not so good memories and a sponsor can help you through it. Sponsors so often see what we can't see and know ourselves. They are our sounding board, and can be our safe place so we can share and not be alone.
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04-17-2014, 12:30 PM | #6 |
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When I was in recovery center, I was with my wife.
I'm so thankful to her. I want to tell you that WE did it Together. I don't know how it could be if it was there alone... In the center she was on meetings with other sponsors and had qualified psychotherapy sessions. They listened to the therapist how to live with addicted person. They shared their stories and she was happy to be there with me. I was happy to know that she knows how I fighting for our future. Now she is my best friend, we are close more then ever. |
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