One of the hardest things for all of us to learn when we're all new to recovery is even with the best intentions in mind we can still do ourselves great harm that's beyond belief and all of us will do this. This is how we'll all start to get our own understanding of what's really going on with us and what's really wrong. There is no other way that any of us would ever really want to take the steps that are suggested that are in recovery unless we have to, and the way that most of us find out that we have to is by us trying to continue to do things our way, this way that doesn't work, and hasn't work, but now somehow since we know a thing or two about what's wrong with us that magically it's going to start to work. The result of this for all of us is so unbelievably painful, like no other pain that any of us had ever encountered before recovery. We're all going to need to hold on tight to our recovery when this happens because it gets a little crazy for all of us to get beyond this, but if we're able to, all of us will now be on new ground with our own thinking. We'll no longer think that we have to have all the answers for ourselves anymore, and we'll become more and more open to what others have to say about us that have our best interest in mind. This brings all of us a safety that each one of us sorely needs so badly for ourselves, and we all can find this from us being in recovery.