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bluidkiti · 04-19-2014, 02:06 PM

Lying To Yourself?

Psalms 51:1-6: “Surely You desire truth in the inner parts” (v.6).

My husband and I had worked all day installing a financial program onto our home computer. Several hours earlier, when we thought we were finished, we discovered a large discrepancy in our checking account reconciliation. We followed the directions in the manual, but nothing worked. We were stumped, and tired.

As my husband walked out of the room, I scanned the screen for the umpteenth time. And then, I saw it! “Honey, come quickly,” I shouted. We had informed the computer that we owned $5000 more than we did. When we told the computer the truth, the checkbook balanced.

For years many of us have fed ourselves lies. We are perplexed and exhausted trying to understand why our lives don’t work. Maybe we need to take the time to identify the lies and replace them with the truth. Then we can start changing destructive behavior that is the consequence of believing those lies. The change will not take place as instantly as with a computer, but it will happen.

Lord, please help me locate where I have accepted lies about myself
and replace those lies with your truths.

Joan C. Webb

MajestyJo · 04-20-2014, 07:07 AM

When I came into recovery, I was highly offended when I was told that I had to get honest. I am a good Christian woman, I was raised to be honest, how dare you. It didn't take long to find that I didn't have self-honesty. I could be too honest and hurtful to others, I was cash register honest, yet when it came to my denial and the extent of my disease, I lived in a fantasy, turned a blind eye, and didn't look at the reality of the situation.

Out comes the rose-coloured glasses, the mask, and the blinders so we don't have to look at ourselves in the mirror. We forget that this is a program of reflection, and as my sponsor use to say, "If you are in doubt about what you need to work on, look at who you are pointing a finger at."

04-19-2014, 02:06 PM	#1
bluidkiti Administrator Join Date: Aug 2013 Posts: 73,726	Lying To Yourself? Lying To Yourself? Psalms 51:1-6: “Surely You desire truth in the inner parts” (v.6). My husband and I had worked all day installing a financial program onto our home computer. Several hours earlier, when we thought we were finished, we discovered a large discrepancy in our checking account reconciliation. We followed the directions in the manual, but nothing worked. We were stumped, and tired. As my husband walked out of the room, I scanned the screen for the umpteenth time. And then, I saw it! “Honey, come quickly,” I shouted. We had informed the computer that we owned $5000 more than we did. When we told the computer the truth, the checkbook balanced. For years many of us have fed ourselves lies. We are perplexed and exhausted trying to understand why our lives don’t work. Maybe we need to take the time to identify the lies and replace them with the truth. Then we can start changing destructive behavior that is the consequence of believing those lies. The change will not take place as instantly as with a computer, but it will happen. Lord, please help me locate where I have accepted lies about myself and replace those lies with your truths. Joan C. Webb __________________ "No matter what you have done up to this moment, you get 24 brand-new hours to spend every single day." --Brian Tracy AA gives us an opportunity to recreate ourselves, with God's help, one day at a time. --Rufus K. When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on. --Franklin D. Roosevelt We stay sober and clean together - one day at a time! God says that each of us is worth loving.

04-20-2014, 07:07 AM	#2
MajestyJo Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Hamilton, ON Posts: 25,078	When I came into recovery, I was highly offended when I was told that I had to get honest. I am a good Christian woman, I was raised to be honest, how dare you. It didn't take long to find that I didn't have self-honesty. I could be too honest and hurtful to others, I was cash register honest, yet when it came to my denial and the extent of my disease, I lived in a fantasy, turned a blind eye, and didn't look at the reality of the situation. Out comes the rose-coloured glasses, the mask, and the blinders so we don't have to look at ourselves in the mirror. We forget that this is a program of reflection, and as my sponsor use to say, "If you are in doubt about what you need to work on, look at who you are pointing a finger at." __________________ Love always, Jo I share because I care.

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