I AM ME AND I AM OKAY!

[MajestyJo]

My Declaration of Self-Esteem....

"I AM ME"

In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything
that comes out of me is authentically me. Because I alone chose
it - I own everything about me. My body, my feelings, my mouth,
my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or to myself
- I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears - I own all
my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.

Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted
with me - by so doing I can love me and be friendly with me in
all my parts.

I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and
other aspects that I do not know - but as long as I am friendly
and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for
solutions to the puzzles, and for ways to find out more about
me - However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and
whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is
authentically - Me.

If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought and felt
turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting,
keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I
discarded - I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the
tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, to make
sense and order out of the world of people and things outside
of me - I own me, and therefore I can engineer me.


I AM ME and I AM OKAY

© Virginia Satir, 1975.

[MajestyJo]

Progress not perfection....

It’s Okay…
It’s okay to stop the enabling and detach with love.

It’s okay to set boundaries.

It’s okay to say “No” and to make “No” a complete sentence.

It’s okay to change my mind.

It’s okay to have a “slip” and revert back to old behaviors.

It’s okay to take care of myself and to engage in what some
(outside of the program) might call “selfish” behavior.

It’s okay to work my Al-Anon program my way in my own time
and to know that I will never do it perfectly and that all I can
hope for is progress.

It’s okay to believe that I’m going to be “okay”.

It’s okay to back off from an argument or disagreement by
saying, “You may be right” instead of being determined to “win”.

It’s okay to forgive myself, understanding that I did the best
I could at the time.

It’s okay to “take what I like and leave the rest”.

It’s okay to define my Higher Power exactly as I wish and to
know that mine doesn’t have to match yours.
- -Arlois M

[MajestyJo]

Serenity

When I have recognized the things I can change and have had the courage to do my footwork, I will find serenity quietly sailing into my mind.


I need to balance myself from within, learning to quiet the mind, and in the stillness pray and listen for the answers.

Serenity can be found amongst the chaos, It was such a gift to be able to detach, not take on other people's stuff, learn to let go of my own to my Higher Power. Not easy but something that took practiice, practice, practice.

Serenity is being at peace with myself. Self-acceptance and self-worth, and self-respect, and all those things that I discounted about myself because I didn't think I was worthy. The old tapes would play and for some reason the volumn seems to be so much louder when they played than the new ones I had made to replace them.

I must remember that I am the one with the access to the play button and the volumn control. I can also push pause, and make a decision to rewind and play them again or fast forward and skip them.

God grants me that Serenity. I need to remember to go to Him and ask for it.

Posted on another site in 2011. Forgot that I could be so insightful. How easy I can forget! Maybe this is why they say, "Take what you need and put the rest on the shelf." My problem is that I don't like dusting. I need to go back and do a review because things so easily slip out of my mind in today.