Today's Thought - April

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April 10

Tact is the intelligence of the heart.

~Anonymous

Making direct amends involves much more than a simple “I’m sorry.” Indeed, many of us have received an apology from someone who believed that just saying the words would erase a past full of hurt. Rather than peace, however, we have been left with a nagging feeling of incompleteness.

A real amend is the right one for the relationship. Through the willingness we show in making a list of whom we have harmed, we come to know what the right amend is. If we write a letter or apologize, our personal involvement makes the amend genuine and sincere. We can also choose not to contact the other person, but to make a sincere silent apology and turn it over to our Higher Power. If it’s an old lover to whom we’re making amends, we must consider the person’s present life and whether there’s a spouse involved.

In all cases, the best amend is to change our life so that today’s actions will not cause harm and have to be added to our list of future amends.

I can feel good knowing that every day I am in recovery is a gentle amend for the past.

Today's reading is from the book Answers in the Heart: Daily Meditations for Men and Women Recovering from Sex Addiction*